Tuesday, November 10, 2015

When No One’s Looking

24th Sunday after Pentecost
November 8, 2015
Ruth 3:1-5; 4:13-17; Hebrews 9:24-28; Mark 12:38-44


            There was an inspirational trio of sentences that gained popularity a few years ago, that started out in a country song.  The original lyrics were: “You’ve got to sing like you don’t need the money.  Love like you’ll never get hurt.  You’ve got to dance like nobody’s watchin’.  It’s gotta come from the heart if you want it to work.”[1]  Those lines were condensed to the more popular: “Sing like no one’s listening.  Love like you’ve never been hurt. Dance like no one’s watching.”  They’re encouraging because they’re a reminder that it doesn’t matter what others think of your singing voice, you should sing, anyway. In John Wesley’s Directions for Singing in the front of the hymnal he wrote to not be afraid of your voice “nor ashamed of its being heard.”[2]  Sing like no one’s listening; when it’s hymns you’re singing, it’s music to God’s ears, no matter whether you can keep a tune or not.  Love like you’ve never been hurt may be hard, also, because it’s taking a risk that you might be hurt again, and yet being bold and courageous enough to love again, anyway.  Love like you’ve never been hurt.  And many of us are self-conscious enough, that it can also be hard to dance like no one’s watching.  Unless you’ve trained for “Dancing with the Stars,” most of us don’t really want an audience when we dance.  When we don’t have an audience is when we feel the most comfortable cutting a rug.  So, what do you do, how do you act, when you don’t have an audience, when you stop being self-conscious and worrying about others’ expectations and just let yourself be free to be you?  Who are you when no one’s looking?
            We didn’t read the first part of Ruth’s story, just how it ends, so if you’re unfamiliar with it, I encourage you to read the rest of it some time.  The book of Ruth is just four chapters and a really easy read, because it’s a great story.  If you start at the beginning, what you learn by the time you get to the passages we read today is that “the characters in this story are beyond reproach.”[3]  Ruth, Naomi, and Boaz are “admirable people who acted with courage and kindness in everyday situations… Out of concern for others, all three [of them] do more than is required.”[4]  They go above and beyond any duties or obligations or expectations.  They are not just polite and well-mannered, but kind and gracious.  Ruth would have been better off staying in Moab, her own country, and finding a new husband there after her first husband died.  Instead, she stayed with Naomi and they journeyed together to Naomi’s home country.  It was a difficult life in Bethlehem where Ruth had to work hard in the fields to provide food. Naomi could have simply given up in self-pity.  Her husband and both sons had died.  She could have just said, “Woe is me.  I deserved better.  Life dealt me a bad hand.  It’s not fair.”  Instead, she carefully worked out a plan to find a good husband for Ruth, her remaining daughter-in-law.  Likewise, Boaz could have easily ignored Ruth as an undesirable, distant relative who had no claim on him as family and who he could have banned from his farm.  Instead, he protected her when she worked in his fields and responded compassionately to her brave request that he assume family responsibility for her and Naomi.  The whole story of Ruth didn’t have to happen.  Instead, Ruth was loyal to her late husband’s mother and Naomi worked to find a future with hope for them both, rather than give up and sit down and throw herself a pity party.  Boaz did not have to let Ruth glean in his fields or respond to Ruth’s claim, yet he chose to have compassion on her.  All three of these people showed that they have character.  They showed what they are like when no one’s watching.  They showed that they possessed qualities of honesty, courage, and integrity.  They took responsibility, rather than play the victim card, which all three of them could have done.  They could have viewed themselves as victims of their circumstances, life dealt them a raw hand.  Instead, they planned and took action to change their circumstances.  Ruth married again.  Naomi had a grandson, after all.  And Boaz was willing to let his son be heir to Ruth’s first husband, instead of his own heir.  Ruth, Naomi, and Boaz showed themselves to be people of fine, honorable character.
However, having good character does not mean you are automatically liked or accepted.  Ruth was a foreigner and Naomi was widow; they were outcasts in their society, in spite of having character.  Jesus obviously had integrity and character, but he was often rejected and hated.  Our opening hymn this morning began “Hail, thou once despised Jesus!”, and I think the argument could be made that some people still despise Jesus.[5]  Or, to quote Scripture, he is “the stone that the builders rejected [that] become the chief cornerstone.”[6]  In fact, sometimes you are rejected and despised because of your good character.  I remember a petition that circulated in high school that everyone in my class signed, except for me.  While I agreed with most of what was in the petition, there was one line in there that I didn’t agree with, and so I wouldn’t sign it.  I was the only one in my class, but I disagreed with that one line, and so I couldn’t, in good conscience, sign my name.  Just because you have integrity does not mean that others will respect you for it, unfortunately. 
Having a good character also does not mean that you’re perfect and without sin.  Paul writes in Romans that “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”[7]  We, obviously, are not Jesus and so we are not perfect; we are those whom he died to save.  And so, even if we have an honorable character, we still sin, we still do not always do things perfectly.  We still need grace allowed to us.  The good news is that “Christ was offered once to take on himself the sins of many people,” as we read in Hebrews this morning.[8]  Christ was offered once.  He does not get sacrificed again and again each time we sin or each time we apologize for our sins.  Jesus Christ has done it once and for all.  He doesn’t keep getting back up the cross.  That’s what Dietrich Bonhoeffer was talking about when he wrote about “cheap grace,” which is to say that when we freely sin or keep doing the same bad thing over and over without worrying about the consequence, because hey, Jesus died for me, I’m covered: then, we cheapen his sacrifice.  It makes light of what he did for us on the cross.  Instead, those with good character work to minimize their character flaws, to overcome them. They strive to do better next time and not take lightly the gift of God, which is his Son, Jesus Christ.  We believe we are going on toward perfection, recognizing we are not there now, and so sometimes our temper will get the better of us, or that great trait of perseverance will turn into willful stubbornness, or we will turn a blind eye when we ought to speak or we will eat all the leftover Halloween candy in one sitting.  Hopefully, however, the recognition of the places where we fall short turn into character-building experiences as we intentionally seek to do better and improve our character and become more like Christ.
            Character means how you act when no one’s looking.  Unfortunately, we don’t know exactly how Jesus acted when he was by himself, because the Gospels were recorded by eye witnesses of his life; there were no hidden cameras.  Still, we do know what he said about other people’s behavior, such as the widow and the scribes we read about in the Gospel of Mark this morning.  Jesus commented to his disciples that the scribes, or church leaders, put just enough money in the offering box to make a good impression.  They made a donation in order to be seen making a donation; that was their motivation for giving.  They were leaders in the temple, they obviously were supposed to help out, and so they made sure that everyone saw when they did it.  These are the ones who longed for honor and recognition, for fame and celebrity, but they are the ones, Jesus said, who are also the most likely to cheat and to show off.  That speaks volumes about their character, doesn’t it?  All they really cared about was getting the best of everything for themselves and making sure that they looked good.  Then Jesus observed this poor widow quietly putting two coins in the treasury.  She didn’t want a big fuss about it, like the scribes did, because unlike them she was not extrinsically motivated.  The widow didn’t give because she was trying to show off, or for any external reward, or because she knew she’d get recorded in the Gospels for her story to be shared for millennia.  She didn’t know Jesus was watching or paying her any attention.  No, she didn’t give a lot, but proportionately, she gave everything she had, because she truly wanted to help.  She thought God could do more with her two coins than she could.  She knew it wasn’t much, but it was all she had to give. 
            Character can be developed; it’s not necessarily something you’re born with.  So if your halo’s been tarnished, that’s okay.  We believe in a God of second chances.  You can gain character, even if you haven’t had it in the past.  Act with integrity, regardless of whether you think anyone’s watching.  People with character don’t give their spare change or give out of their leftovers; they share what they have even if it means they go without because someone else needs it more.   Don’t throw yourself a pity party when things don’t go your way, or say you deserved better.  Instead, you get yourself together and form a plan to move forward with life.  Character doesn’t mean you’ll get fame or recognition or acceptance or even respect.  Sometimes people will hate you because you have courage and are honest and upright.  Character doesn’t guarantee you a rich or comfortable life, and it doesn’t mean that you’re perfect or always know what to say or how to act.  It means you have integrity.  It means you keep your word.  It means you are kind and compassionate, not just polite.  It means you’re gracious, quick to allow grace for yourself and for others.  Character is who you are when you think no one’s looking.  I pray for each of you what Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians, that God may “strengthen you to the end, so that you may be blameless on the day of our Lord Jesus Christ.”[9]


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