Tuesday, May 5, 2015

One Big, Happy Family, Whether We Like It or Not

5th Sunday of Easter
May 3, 2015
Acts 8:26-40; Psalm 22:25-31; 1 John 4:7-21

            Among the online articles I read this week was one about community by the Christian author Philip Yancey.  You may recognize that name as the author of the best-selling books “The Jesus I Never Knew” and “What’s So Amazing about Grace?” He is also a former editor for Christianity Today magazine.  He now also keeps a blog and this past Thursday’s entry was titled, “Small is Large.”[1]  It was about his recent visit to a megachurch and how, while there are currently 1,300 congregations in the U.S. which qualify as megachurches and average more than 2000 in their weekly attendance, most Americans still are part of churches with less than 200 members.  Most Americans are part of churches that are our size, or perhaps a little larger.  And whereas it’s easy to find the advantages that megachurches have, Philip Yancey wrote about some of the benefits of attending a smaller church.  One advantage is that it’s easier to find a parking spot!  Another is that it causes us to be in community with people who are not like us. Philip Yancey quotes another Christian author, G.K. Chesterton, who wrote, “The man who lives in a small community lives in a much larger world…. The reason is obvious.  In a large community we can choose our companions.  In a small community our companions are chosen for us.”  When there are lots of people to choose who to hang out with, we often choose people who are a lot like us, whether the same age, or the same gender, or the same marital status, or same love of fishing, or what-have-you, and that can quite easily cause the group to turn into a clique.  Only people like us allowed.  But in a smaller group of people, we have to hang out with everyone and it is much harder work to form a community, to be in a community, with people who are different from us.  Philip Yancey cites Ephesians 3, which talks about God’s secret plan through the church, which is made up of people from different backgrounds, which you can see just by looking around at us.  “By forming a community out of diverse members, we have the opportunity to capture the attention of the world and even the supernatural world beyond.”[2]  How do we form a community when everyone’s so different from each other?  With lots of love, patience, and grace. 
            We have been reading from 1 John since Easter and it is an epistle, or letter, that is all about love.  This week’s passage tells us that “We love because God first loved us.  If we say we love God, and hate a brother or sister, we are liars, because we cannot love God, whom we have not seen, if we do not love our brothers and sisters, whom we have seen.  The command that Christ has given us is this: whoever loves God must love their brother and sister also.”[3]  Love is how we stay in community with each other in spite of our differences.  No one in close relationships always get along with each other.  There are going to be disagreements and differences of opinion simply because God made us different.  The key is that even when there is conflict, we still stay in relationship with each other because we love each other and we love God.  John’s letter also says, “This is love: it is not that we loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son as the sacrifice that deals with our sins.”[4]  When differences escalate to the point of conflict, it’s because sin has gotten involved somehow, whether in the form of pride or greed or arrogance or envy or anger or something else.  And John’s letter reminds us that God loves us so much that he sent his Son to be the means by which our sins are forgiven.  This is love.  God loved us first, love comes from God, and we are to love God with all our heart, with all our soul, and with all our strength.  And we are to love our neighbor as ourselves, regardless of how much like us that neighbor is. 
            Patience, one of the other fruits of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5, is also key in forming and staying in community with people who are difference from us.  Look, for example, at the patience Philip shows toward the Ethiopian man in our Acts passage this morning.  Now, here are two people who are very different: Philip is one of the original twelve disciples, originally from the town of Bethsaida, and hand-picked and called by Jesus to “follow me.”  In contrast, this man in the carriage is from Ethiopia, not just a different country, but a different continent, he works for the government, and he’d never heard of Jesus.  One last difference between them is that Philip probably had a wife and children whereas the Ethiopian man was a eunuch, which is to say, he’s sterile, so that he wasn’t a threat to the Ethiopian queen.  So, the Holy Spirit tells Philip to approach this man, who appears to have practically nothing at all in common with him.  Philip listens to God and goes over to the carriage and hears the man reading and discovers that they might have something else in common.  So Philip asks, “Do you understand what you are reading?”  And the man says, “How can I, unless someone explains it to me?”[5]  And Philip takes the time to not just explain the passage from Isaiah to him but also to share with him the Good News about Jesus!  And then Philip continues to travel with him some more!  I said patience is necessary for community, but perhaps a more accurate word might be time!  Philip spends a lot of time with the Ethiopian man, staying with him until the Holy Spirit takes him away, but not before the man is baptized and officially joins the community of faith.  Because of Philip’s willingness to spend time with and have lots of patience with someone who was very different from him, Philip was able to share the Gospel and baptize a new convert to Christianity.  Philip was able to grow his community. 
            You see, our community of faith, both here locally and on the grand scale has lots of different people in it.  People we’re not always going to get along with, people we’re not always going to like.  And yet, just because they rub us the wrong way does not make them any less a child of God, does not make them any less beloved, does not make them any less deserving of our love, because we are called to love each other unconditionally.  That’s what grace is, unconditional love.  That’s how God loves us, and that’s how we are to love our brothers and sisters.  Our passage from 1 John says, “There is no fear in love; perfect love drives out fear, because fear expects punishment. The person who is afraid has not been made perfect in love.”  It turns out all those times the Bible tells us “do not be afraid” and all the times we’re told to “love God and love one another” are basically telling us the same thing.  To love God is to not be afraid.  To love each other is to not be afraid of each other.  Our Psalm this morning says that “all the families of the nations shall worship before the Lord,”[6] much like the vision in Revelation 7 where people from every race, tribe, nation, and language all worship together.[7]  In the small church, where we can’t group by people who have the same hobbies we do, we actually live closer into this vision of different kinds of people all worshiping together.  We have learned how to get along, because we have to.  There is no other service to go to instead or different small group to go to instead.  We have, more or less, figured out how to love each other unconditionally and to not be afraid of each other.  We have figured out how to show each other grace, because we have to. 
            Philip Yancey likens a small church to a family reunion, where you encounter all kinds of people you might not normally associate with, if given the choice, and a wide range of people, with views all over the political spectrum, lives all over geographic spectrum, and different paths chosen.  Yet they all have in common similar DNA, which makes them all part of the same family.  We are also like that.  We have a wide range of backgrounds and careers and life choices all right here, represented among us.  And we’re all part of the same family, God’s family.  So, no, we’re not all always going to get along.  But we do form a community where we can model love and patience and grace, unconditional love, and when the world sees that happen, well, it’ll blow them away.  And what a witness that will be!




[2] Ibid.
[3] 1 John 4:19-21, emphasis mine
[4] 1 John 4:10
[5] Acts 8:29-31
[6] Psalm 22:27b
[7] Revelation 7:9-10

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